What is EFT?
Origins and Development
EFT is usually a short term, structured approach to couples therapy. EFT was formulated in the early 80’s by Dr’s Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. Since then, Sue Johnson has further developed the model, adding attachment theory to further understand what is happening in couple relationships and to guide therapists in helping them. EFT is also used with families and individuals. The international website for Emotionally Focused Therapy is www.iceeft.com
About Feelings and Needs
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is based on the observation that our most important relationships can trigger strong feelings. These relationships are a source of immense stress and pain, as well as great comfort and happiness. EFT therapists help couples learn to express and manage these feelings in a safe and positive way.
EFT therapists will help you really understand your needs in your relationship and help you respond to your partners needs, and your partner respond to yours. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) will help you learn about the moments when you hurt each other in your relationship dance, and how you can keep your emotional balance in these moments.
Then EFT will show you how to come close and express your softer feelings and needs to your partner in a way that helps your partner respond to you. This will help you to build a secure and lasting bond within your relationship, creating closeness, trust and connection.
A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. The major contraindication for EFT is on-going violence in the relationship. EFT is being used with many different kinds of couples in private practice, university training centers and hospital clinics and many different cultural groups throughout the world. These distressed couples include partners suffering from disorders such as depression, post traumatic stress disorders and chronic illness.